Rejection and failure hurt, whether in love, friendship or the field of our study or expertise. We all need acceptance in some form or the other. By our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, teachers, colleagues/ co-workers and even our children.
Rejection hurts because it questions our worth and on occasion instantly disunites us from the thing of our desire. Albeit it is in our rejected moments that we are closest to ourselves and have a dialogue with our ‘self’—about the loftier purpose of life.
Joyous moments paradoxically are more alienating than we think; which is not to say that we should get rejected on purpose. When we are joyous we usually meet more people, attend parties, and gradually get intertwined into the web of life. There is usually no time to sit or contemplate.
Whatever we desire should be sought after whole heartedly, pursued whole heartedly and hence aim success. But somewhere along if there is an encounter with rejection it should consciously be transformed into a positive patch.
It is the acceptance of rejection and grappling with it that eventually accounts for our personal growth. As long as the purpose of our intentions is constructive there is usually thin chance of rejection amongst the near and dear ones.
In the end everyone can be a winner.
To each his own,
Manjit
